To the moms who walk into church alone

This past weekend I was sitting in service and as the message began I saw her walk in.  I saw her walk in alone…


Perhaps she feels unnoticed..or maybe she feels like everyone is noticing her…noticing that she walks in alone. Maybe she feels lonely. Maybe she feels tired. She is a mom…a mom who brings her children to church every week without her husband. And he, well he is at home….again…or maybe on the boat…or maybe at work…or maybe fishing…or maybe watching a ball game or maybe picked up an extra shift…he is anywhere but here. I don’t know all of the story but I know enough to know that coming to church and worshipping without him probably isn’t her dream.

I’m guessing that her dream is to have him lead their family spiritually.

I’m guessing that her dream is to have him worshipping beside her.

I’m guessing that her dream is to have him know what she knows.

I’m guessing that her dream is to have him see what she sees.

I’m guessing that she prays a lot…and maybe she is worn out from praying.

I’m guessing that while she feels complete in this place there is still a piece of her that feels incomplete doing this by herself.

She is not incomplete. She is quite complete. However, her desire is one that comes from God’s heart. Her desire to not ‘do’ this thing called parenting and life alone is an honest thing. Her desire to be lead by a man who’s heart lines up with God’s heart is in fact from the very heart of God.

I have a good friend who walked this road for many many years. She walked through the doors of the church Sunday after Sunday praying for her husband to seek what she had found. She served Sunday after Sunday wishing that he would understand her desire to give her life and her gifts to this place.

She probably cried a lot.

She probably prayed a lot.

She probably felt like giving up.

She probably felt alone.

But she never stopped.

She persevered in prayer.

She never stopped hoping.

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

1 Corinthians 13:7

Love hopes…and it trusts…and it perseveres…

She never stopped leading her children to hope just because her husband hadn’t realized he needed to be found yet.

She kept setting this example to her children, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year.

She kept modeling love.

She kept modeling truth.

She kept…seeking the one who would was the only one who could grasp her husbands lost heart and bring him home.

Now…what probably seemed like an eternity…what probably seemed as though it could never be…is a reality. Her husband came to know the power and love of God’s saving grace in his own life…in his own time…in the perfect time.

She didn’t have to force it…because it came about in the Lords timing.

“For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.” Habbakuk 2:3

She didn’t have to manipulate it.

She didn’t have to give up what she knew until he arrived…

She didn’t have to preach at him.

She didn’t have to give him books or verses or songs that would miraculously turn his heart to a place of knowing…

What she did…well she prayed…she kept handing it over….she kept laying it down…laying him down and resting in the promise that the Lord calls his own…

She didn’t stop praying.

To the mom out there who is alone waiting for her husband.

To the single mom who is walking this road without a helpmate.

To the mom out there who continually brings her babies to the foot of the cross without another by your side know this:

You are NOT alone.  If the church is truly the church than it is our job to hold you up.  It is our job to pray for you and applaud you for bringing your children…week after week, month after month, year after year…and drawing them to the well that never runs dry.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Know this:

The Lord sees you

The Lord sees your babies

The Lord has gathered his people to cheer you on.

The Lord is faithful to complete the work He began in you and your children’s lives.

The Lord is good.

The Lord is faithful.

Keep praying…and hold on knowing:

“…Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s…” 2 Chronicles 20:15